Because here’s the thing, having a safe space to release is important—but there’s a fine line between processing pain and reinforcing it. Between being heard and staying stuck.

In truth, people pleasing is not endemic to the meek girlies who are too scared to insist upon their needs, it’s a pandemic also afflicting the outspoken girlies who think being their full selves may be too much.

There will be highs, and lows, and going through them will not always be easy. So we have to be prepared to make space for ourselves in those moments. We have to know when it is time to guide ourselves towards a chair and say, “Babe, you need to have a seat…like right now. You are doing too much.”

My consistency was paying off and the results were apparent and beyond promising. And I was so proud of myself. So why? Why was I now feeling so tired of everything, and exhausted at doing any more work? Why was I feeling so dissatisfied, overwhelmed and discontent?

Learning how to love safely is a key part of opening ourselves up to a romantic relationship. No matter how much you crave finding your person, you must first desire finding a love that is nourishing to you.

Starting over is a timely girlie, who only shows up when she is ready, so if you are content with where you are, these thoughts would not even materialize.