One minute, we’re all hyping up a friend’s decision to ignore their toxic ex. The next? She’s at brunch with him, and we’re side-eyeing our phones, wondering if we’ve been set up.

If someone reacts like you’ve wounded them just by being direct, that’s a them problem, not a you problem.

We all know that one person—the friend, family member, or coworker who is never wrong. Not just in their mind, but in the way they interact with the world. Conversations with them feel like walking through a minefield; one wrong word, one slightly dissenting opinion, and BOOM…you’re in an argument you never signed up for. It’s as if every discussion is a test, and the only acceptable answer is their answer.

We don’t talk enough about how hard it is to notice when a friendship shifts from supportive to competitive—and even more, how to deal with it.

You’re texting, you’re flirting, maybe even making plans for the weekend. You’re thinking, Wow, look at me thriving in the dating world. Then—BAM. Silence. No "hey, I’m busy," no "let’s talk later," just a big fat void where their texts used to be.

Here’s the thing—some red flags are loud, screaming at you like a car alarm at 3 AM. Others? They’re sneaky little devils, hiding in the seemingly small things that don’t seem like a big deal… until they suddenly are.

When you value someone, it’s natural to care about their feelings. However, this care must come from a place of genuine concern—not from guilt or lingering past disagreements.

Consider me your pseudo older sister here to remind you that turning 30 isn’t a deadline—it’s a glow-up.

Modern dating sometimes feels like a never-ending cycle of ghosting, weird situationships, and "what are we?" conversations. But thankfully babes… we don’t have to settle for chaos. The trick to this is ✨dating with intention✨.

If you find yourself revisiting past pain, remember this: wounds heal faster when we stop picking at them.