Feeling sad after making the right decision?
You're not alone.
I’m at a point in my life where I am really aware of what is healthy/unhealthy for me. I’m also at a point in my life where I cut out whatever is unhealthy for me….or at least find a way to limit its interference in my life. I’m strict about this because I don’t want to disappoint myself by allowing something that I know is unhealthy exist and continuously cause problems in my life. If there is something I hate more than complaining about something that could easily be fixed, it’s complaining about the same thing over and over again and not fixing it.
It's not always sunshine and rainbows after making the "right" decision. Choosing what aligns with our values and long-term goals can come with a side of grief, uncertainty, and even a little bit of tears. Did I make the right decision? Was it too soon? What if…?
Is this weird? Absolutely not.
It is okay to be sad after making the right decision
Why does this happen?
Change is hard, even good change: Leaving the familiar, even when it's holding us back, can trigger sadness. It's a normal human response to loss, even the loss of a comfortable rut.
Unmet expectations: We paint a rosy picture of how things "should" be, and reality doesn't always live up to the hype. Remember, growth is rarely linear, and setbacks are part of the journey.
What-ifs and could-have-beens: Choosing one path means saying no to others. It's natural to feel a pang of longing for the roads not taken, but don't let it overshadow the potential of the path you chose.
So, what do you do when sadness hits?
Acknowledge it: Don't bottle it up! Talk to a friend, write it down, cry it out – whatever helps you process and release the emotion.
Be kind to yourself: You made a brave decision, and that deserves applause, not self-criticism.
Reconnect with the "why": Remind yourself of the values and goals that guided your choice. See the bigger picture and the positive impact it will have in the long run. If you haven’t already, read: A little self reflection goes a long way.
Sadness is a valid human emotion, and it doesn't negate the "rightness" of your decision. Feel it, understand it, and let it guide you forward with even more clarity and strength.
How to move forward?
Focus on the present: Don't dwell on the past or worry about the future. Be mindful of your current experiences and find joy in the small victories. If you haven’t already, read: How to be present when adulting gets too hard.
Embrace the journey: This isn't a linear path. Expect twists and turns, and see them as opportunities for growth and learning.
Find your support system: Talk to friends, family, or a therapist who can offer a listening ear and encouraging words.
Celebrate milestones: Take time to acknowledge your progress, no matter how small. Pat yourself on the back for your courage and resilience.
Releasing what no longer serves you frees up space for joy, opportunity, and a life aligned with your deepest desires. Instead of fearing the initial sadness, embrace it as a necessary step in your journey. Acknowledge the emotions, feel them fully, and then let them go. Choose long-term happiness over fleeting comfort and take the brave step to let go, and watch your life bloom with possibilities you never dared to dream of.
Best of Luck! xx
