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February 14 2019
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THE GIRLS LIKE ME
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I OWE MY FEMINISM TO BUCHI EMECHETA

I OWE MY FEMINISM TO BUCHI EMECHETA
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Dillys - March 11 2019

such a beautiful read. i couldn’t have put it better myself. As someone who grew up in Ghana, my rage started when my mom told me at the age of 8 that when cooking, you should scoop the mans’s(my father’s) food first before anyone else. i didn’t understand. i asked why? as they tend to, she told me that’s the way it had always been. even at that age, i found something wrong in that. why would i suffer and cook for a man and then give him the best and biggest portion when he didn’t have anything to do with the cooking. even at that age, i was perplexed by the discord against women especially in the African society.

Chinelo Mba-Uduanu - March 09 2019

Subconsciously, I knew that being born into a family of all female children played a role in my being a feminist. It hurts when the society regards you as inferior and makes your mother feel that she’s less for not producing a son. However, your writing struck a cord. I know now that it’s unequivocally why I am unapologetically feminist. As brilliantly described by Chimamanda, we matter equally.

Olumbe Akinkugbe - March 08 2019

Just wow! Excellent writing

Patience Nasieku - March 08 2019

This is beautifully written. Thank you!

Lira - February 26 2019

This was a nice read.
I’m not Nigerian, but I truly understand what she is talking about.

Funny enough, the upkeep of boys costs the family more money.
They are to have their own space, go to better schools, wear better clothes.
They also contribute little to the family, they won’t clean, Cook nor will they do the laundry.
But after all that, the father wants to be reimbursed for raising his daughter by means of a BridePrice

We have also left our economy to be run by people with such mentality

Dera - February 22 2019

This is Beautiful!
Keep shaking the tables.
Keep up the good job.

Olufunke Baruwa - February 21 2019

Beautifully written and inspiring.. there are still many battles to fight as we freak down the walls of patriarchy. But for now, we will count our blessings and take one day at a time

Wuraola - February 21 2019

Thank you so much Nneka for sharing your truth.

Thank you Somebi, I’m glad your Mum is happy now.

Somebi - February 20 2019

👏🏾

Tee - February 20 2019

My mother has 5 girls. While growing up, it did bother her. My grandmother also gave her trouble.
I remember seeing her read a book called “But we wanted a boy”. What attracted me was the cartoon drawing on it.
She never allowed me to go close to it.

One day, I took a look when she wasn’t around, and it was different sexual positions just to have a male child.

I was too young to understand but as I grew older, It hurt me. It hurt me that she was trying so hard for something that wasn’t even her fault.

She told me today that she’s happy she had 5 girls, and she’s always proud to let people know.

Choice - February 15 2019

Love this!

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