RESPECTABILITY POLITICS

RESPECTABILITY POLITICS

October 04 2018
I don't pander to respectability politics of any kind because they excuse the oppressor.   I especially don’t care fo...
YOUR BODY DOES NOT BELONG TO YOU; YOU ONLY WISH IT DID

YOUR BODY DOES NOT BELONG TO YOU; YOU ONLY WISH IT DID

October 04 2018
"Your body does not belong to you; you only wish it did" I wrote these words after a long time of deep introspection ...
THE THIN LINE BETWEEN RESPECT CULTURE AND ABUSE IN NIGERIA.

THE THIN LINE BETWEEN RESPECT CULTURE AND ABUSE IN NIGERIA.

August 23 2018
 Respect is a word every Nigerian born in Nigeria or brought up by Nigerians hears on a daily basis. The dictionary d...
BRED ON CAUTION: BEING A WOMAN IN A MAN'S WORLD

BRED ON CAUTION: BEING A WOMAN IN A MAN'S WORLD

August 03 2018
At any given point, especially in a space with men she is not familiar with, a woman is probably plotting and plannin...
LIVING AS A QUEER WOMAN IN NIGERIA

LIVING AS A QUEER WOMAN IN NIGERIA

August 03 2018
As soon as my girlfriend and I got off the yellow bus, one of those buses that shuttled between campus and a stop on ...
INHERITANCE OF POVERTY: A WOMAN'S LEGACY

INHERITANCE OF POVERTY: A WOMAN'S LEGACY

July 24 2018
My mother is a beautiful woman. I remember being a teenager, grappling with identity and self-esteem issues, and look...
WE NEED QUEER MAINSTREAM MEDIA REPRESENTATION....FOR THE QUEER CHILDREN

WE NEED QUEER MAINSTREAM MEDIA REPRESENTATION....FOR THE QUEER CHIL...

July 18 2018
I didn’t start dreaming till I was thirteen. I didn’t know I could or should dream. I didn’t know what people like me...
OUR WOMANHOOD AND OUR BODIES BELONG TO US

OUR WOMANHOOD AND OUR BODIES BELONG TO US

June 04 2018
From the time a girl is born in this part of the world, there is a silent understanding, that her life is not hers. ...
BLACK BY THE ONE DROP RULE

BLACK BY THE ONE DROP RULE

June 04 2018
  I immigrated from Cameroon to the United States as an 18 year old fresh out of high school - an all girls boarding ...
MISOGYNY CANNOT BE EXCUSED FOR CULTURE

MISOGYNY CANNOT BE EXCUSED FOR CULTURE

May 23 2018
I love dates. Dates for the fact that they are a reminder of time, of moments - history-breaking moments, quiet momen...
WE WILL NEVER STOP DISCUSSING SEXUAL HARASSMENT

WE WILL NEVER STOP DISCUSSING SEXUAL HARASSMENT

May 15 2018
My first sexual harassment occurred at age 9 and the act was perpetrated by my uncle; my mum's younger half-brother. ...
MISPLACED GUILT

MISPLACED GUILT

May 14 2018
Misplaced guilt happens when someone hurts/violates you, but you prioritize their struggles over your pain, and feel ...
SALARIES FOR STAY AT HOME MOMS?

SALARIES FOR STAY AT HOME MOMS?

May 11 2018
It’s another stressful day for patriarchy on Nigerian twitter. Today’s topic (instigated by the legendary Oseyi Etomi...
BECAUSE SINGLE MEANS SOMETHING OTHER THAN SINGLE

BECAUSE SINGLE MEANS SOMETHING OTHER THAN SINGLE

May 09 2018
I always feel like every great thing has some obscure and meaningful small beginning, and I really want this right he...
A PUBLIC SERVICE ANNOUNCEMENT

A PUBLIC SERVICE ANNOUNCEMENT

May 09 2018
Hey You! Yes..you. “Aunty”, “Friend, “Long lost relatives”, And anyone who wants to contact me to play matchmaker, ju...
NO SIS, A GOD-FEARING HUSBAND IS NOT ENOUGH

NO SIS, A GOD-FEARING HUSBAND IS NOT ENOUGH

May 03 2018
I was hardly 16 when I made the decision that marriage was neither my fort or want. My mother and her childhood frien...
MY HOT TAKE ON THE CHIMAMANDA ADICHIE - HILLARY CLINTON SNAFU.

MY HOT TAKE ON THE CHIMAMANDA ADICHIE - HILLARY CLINTON SNAFU.

April 25 2018
So this morning, I got on Twitter and voilà! my entire timeline was going apeshit over Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie, my w...
QUIT PROJECTING YOUR MISOGYNY ON THE SINGLE WOMAN.

QUIT PROJECTING YOUR MISOGYNY ON THE SINGLE WOMAN.

April 25 2018
Majority of society believes that the woman who chooses not to ever get married or have children, will be miserable i...
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