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YOUR FRIENDS NEED A BREAK FROM YOUR RELATIONSHIP TOO.

May 13 2019
Your significant other just pissed you off again and you can’t believe how callous and fucked up it is, and how betra...
SELFISH: VICE OR VIRTUE?

SELFISH: VICE OR VIRTUE?

May 08 2019
Most people have an ingrained belief that if women chose to put our needs before others, we are acting in a selfish m...
WE MUST QUESTION TRADITION

WE MUST QUESTION TRADITION

March 07 2019
There is an often unconscious line of thinking I make an effort to avoid using, it’s the one that says because someth...
I OWE MY FEMINISM TO BUCHI EMECHETA

I OWE MY FEMINISM TO BUCHI EMECHETA

February 14 2019
I had abandoned my passionate affair with writing for a more sedate relationship with science, the first time I heard...
THE INDEPENDENT WOMAN TROPE – AND WHY IT DOES NOT EMPOWER THE AFRICAN WOMAN

THE INDEPENDENT WOMAN TROPE – AND WHY IT DOES NOT EMPOWER THE AFRIC...

January 31 2019
The idea of the independent woman. The image of self sufficiency. Beyoncé with the power fist. The all-powerful wom...
THE LIKEABILITY PROBLEM

THE LIKEABILITY PROBLEM

January 31 2019
“Do you know Monica Lewinsky had sexual relations with Bill Clinton?” I asked my family at three years old. At five, ...
“BUT....WHY DIDN'T SHE JUST LEAVE?”

“BUT....WHY DIDN'T SHE JUST LEAVE?”

November 21 2018
A few months ago, an acquaintance took in a friend who was fleeing from her violent husband. The story was as heart-b...
A GIRL, THE SUBJECT OR THE OBJECT?

A GIRL, THE SUBJECT OR THE OBJECT?

November 21 2018
Before I begin, I want you to study these two sentences: 1. Mike asked Angela out. 2. Angela asked Mike out. Do you s...
RESPECTABILITY POLITICS

RESPECTABILITY POLITICS

October 04 2018
I don't pander to respectability politics of any kind because they excuse the oppressor.   I especially don’t care fo...
YOUR BODY DOES NOT BELONG TO YOU; YOU ONLY WISH IT DID

YOUR BODY DOES NOT BELONG TO YOU; YOU ONLY WISH IT DID

October 04 2018
"Your body does not belong to you; you only wish it did" I wrote these words after a long time of deep introspection ...
THE THIN LINE BETWEEN RESPECT CULTURE AND ABUSE IN NIGERIA.

THE THIN LINE BETWEEN RESPECT CULTURE AND ABUSE IN NIGERIA.

August 23 2018
 Respect is a word every Nigerian born in Nigeria or brought up by Nigerians hears on a daily basis. The dictionary d...
BRED ON CAUTION: BEING A WOMAN IN A MAN'S WORLD

BRED ON CAUTION: BEING A WOMAN IN A MAN'S WORLD

August 03 2018
At any given point, especially in a space with men she is not familiar with, a woman is probably plotting and plannin...
LIVING AS A QUEER WOMAN IN NIGERIA

LIVING AS A QUEER WOMAN IN NIGERIA

August 03 2018
As soon as my girlfriend and I got off the yellow bus, one of those buses that shuttled between campus and a stop on ...
INHERITANCE OF POVERTY: A WOMAN'S LEGACY

INHERITANCE OF POVERTY: A WOMAN'S LEGACY

July 24 2018
My mother is a beautiful woman. I remember being a teenager, grappling with identity and self-esteem issues, and look...
WE NEED QUEER MAINSTREAM MEDIA REPRESENTATION....FOR THE QUEER CHILDREN

WE NEED QUEER MAINSTREAM MEDIA REPRESENTATION....FOR THE QUEER CHIL...

July 18 2018
I didn’t start dreaming till I was thirteen. I didn’t know I could or should dream. I didn’t know what people like me...
OUR WOMANHOOD AND OUR BODIES BELONG TO US

OUR WOMANHOOD AND OUR BODIES BELONG TO US

June 04 2018
From the time a girl is born in this part of the world, there is a silent understanding, that her life is not hers. ...
BLACK BY THE ONE DROP RULE

BLACK BY THE ONE DROP RULE

June 04 2018
  I immigrated from Cameroon to the United States as an 18 year old fresh out of high school - an all girls boarding ...
MISOGYNY CANNOT BE EXCUSED FOR CULTURE

MISOGYNY CANNOT BE EXCUSED FOR CULTURE

May 23 2018
I love dates. Dates for the fact that they are a reminder of time, of moments - history-breaking moments, quiet momen...
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