Life as a woman is complicated.
There's the pink tax, pay inequality, and even wilted, gray-haired white men, telling us what we should be doing with our ovaries.
We must meet at the intersection of being exactly what men want while not wanting the same things.
Educated but not opinionated because fragility.
Ambitious but sexually ravenous because balance.
Charismatic but not flirtatious as to protect their egos.
Man, fuck that.
In the past few years, so much has changed about me.
I left a 10-year relationship that everyone around me valued more than I did.
I've gotten comfortable with the fact that I'm not the girlfriend that wants to fuck 2x a day (do these people even exist?).
I aggressively negotiate salaries.
I make a point to debate the most dominant male figures in my lectures.
I couldn't tell you the last time I wore a bra or matching underwear and it feels pretty damn great.
When's the last time you really stripped it all away and imagined yourself exactly as you'd like to be?
It's time to get selfish.
In the classroom.
Put yourself first and the rest will come.
Who can't deal, won't...and you'll be better for it.
Words by Kinesha Goldson
Photos by Ally Schmaling